The FBI's War on Moms
What is the FBI good for? Cringe-worthy Taylor Swift knockoffs, banning journalists like Aaron Mate from Twitter, and staging J6 false flags certainly. But protecting a 16 yr old girl kidnapped and abused by a violent dad making death threats? Not so much. I look at the FBI's history in parental kidnap cases and the criminalization of moms.
In this episode I continue to follow the story of my neighbor’s daughter, kidnapped by the dad when she was five along with her eight year old brother. The background is here:
My neighbor has been failed by the police during her 12 years of violent abuse and when the dad disappeared with the kids, by the judicial system that enabled fraud and forgery in a divorce she wasn’t notified about, and by Child Protective Services when she found her daughter ten years later.
According to a court she consulted, this is now the jurisdiction of the FBI. But how do you talk to them? Rolling Stone just published in their “Criminally Cringe” section that the FBI is playing off of Taylor Swift’s new album to get young citizens to narc:
Justice is better than revenge. You may not be Superman, but you can help the #FBI protect the country. If you have information about a federal crime, speak now.
I went to their online system and picked the kidnapping category. Twice it warned me about the trouble I’d incur if I reported false information. After clicking box after box, I came to “Do you know who the kidnapper is?” and I gave up. My neighbor did the same using phone tree responses until it let her leave a voicemail with the name, saying they would get back in 24-36 hrs. That was more than two days ago.
Meanwhile things are escalating. The daughter overheard a conversation between the dad and stepmother saying that they thought the mom had given up. There were no more eyes on them and they could run their household the way they wanted.
The dad told the daughter to change her work schedule for a camping trip, which she did. Then his plans changed and she didn’t know if she could change it again. The dad snarled at her, “There were many times I could have killed your mom and I didn’t. But if you don’t obey me, I won’t hesitate.”
The daughter has written a letter that she wants to give to her dad and stepmother when this is all over and she’s in a safe place. I’ve transcribed it from the texts (sent for safekeeping to the mom) because I want there to be a record in her own words:
Dad, [Stepmom]. When did this even start and why? How could you ever do this? Look at a child and hurt them?? I tried for several several years to make you guys proud. But it is never enough. Just never. You guys never loved me. I mean, come on. You said I wasn’t even part of the family anyway. For years and years I stood there and let you guys hurt me. Hurt my brother. And I took it. I thought maybe if I was quiet and understood that I deserved this that would make you happy. I lied to my friends, counselors, teachers, you name it, when I used to go places with bruises. I let fear get in the way. I could have told them right then and there while you were hitting us and I had the bruises to prove it. But I was scared. Scared to get more hurt. So I guess you guys should be happy you won your “fear tactic game”. Are you happy now? You really want to look me in the eye and tell me you are happy and proud of yourself for hurting two amazing children. And no, I’m not being stuck up, but I do know I have at least some worth now though.
And I know you have none. Forgive but never forget. God shows forgiveness. I forgive you, but I will never forget. And please don’t think because I forgive you that means I want you to be part of my life. You have taken enough time away from my mom and I. How many terrible things you said about her and not to talk to her. You know what? I know the truth. The real reason you didn’t want me to be in contact with her is because you know how good of a person she really is. And you’re scared that I was going to see the real you. You think I didn’t see the real you before that? No. I saw all of that before. When you almost killed my brother, [stepmom], and thought I was sleeping?? If that doesn’t show who you really are, then what does? And dad. Or should I even say that? How about the time you almost killed my mother? And all the times you screamed at us. How I’m a “cunt, slut, dumbass,” and more than I can even count. And [stepmom]. Really? I’m a disappointment? Well I’m very disappointed in you. We cared for you. Tried to give you a chance as a mother. And you failed.
So I guess I will now talk about one person at a time. Let’s start with [stepmother]. You had us fooled in the very beginning. You should’ve been an actress. Not an abusive stepmother. As time went on you got angrier and the act started wearing off. You started by yelling and then the hitting started as well. The pushing, punching, choking, slapping and more. And on top of that you had to scream before after and during you beating us?? As my mother knows: the physical pain hurts, but the mental hurts worse. The name calling and screaming in your face makes you feel worthless like you’re told. But I realize now that everything you said to me was just words you knew were true about yourself. But my brother. You hurt him. I wish you hurt me and never touched him. It’s all in the past and I should move forward but it’s easier said than done. He is my brother. He is my blood. And tell me: if you and your brother were beat for years would you appreciate them or even want to call them your “mom”?
Me neither. That’s why I’m not. Because my actual mom cares about me and would never lay a hand on me or hurt me at all like you have. And wanna know why? Because she actually knows how to love someone. And I don’t even think you have love in your heart or whatever that is. And my heart was very hurt by you. But I don’t care about it. Because you and dad are not worth it.
Okay “dad.” Now your turn. Daughter and dad relationships was all I wanted. A good one. The one where you guys mess around and have fun together. But then whenever we would start going places I started getting more worried and worried that you would do something. Because you have hurt people in the past. Have you not? You hurt my mom as I said earlier. And no matter if you touched us or not. Do you think it didn’t hurt when you called me terrible names? I don’t even remember what [stepmom] called us because I was hearing them from my biological father. You know, the one that gave birth to my brother and I and raised us? Even if it was terrible or not the point is you were supposed to be our father. You were supposed to be there. And you weren’t. Not in the way any child would want at least. And I get I made mistakes and you constantly had me saying sorry along with [stepmom.] Both of you made me feel like I was nothing and never enough and like I was always screwing up.
To know you’re not good enough for your father? Do you know how much that hurts? And you have to scream at me and remind me of it? I love you dad, but I can’t love you anymore. I love that you are part of the reason I’m here. And I have tried for several months. Most of the time, if not all, I tell you I love you and you mumble it or don’t even say it back. Well guess what? You don’t have to. Because I don’t love you dad. And I know you already have said that you don’t have a daughter once, so this shouldn’t be too hard for you. But it is for me. So I’m gone after this. I’m not your daughter anymore, but I never was anyway. You said you wanted papers or legal proof that my mom wants me. Well here it is.
Talk about one of you at a time, you’re terrible, but together? You’re horrendous. I’m glad I can finally be happy. After years of feeling tortured I can finally be myself. Finally be happy. Finally be loved and safe. So I’m saying goodbye. I shared my story because maybe I can help other kids be strong. And although this was tough, I know that I am strong. I know I am enough. And I don’t need yours or anyone else’s approval to know it’s true.
In an odd synchronicity, the mom told me the daughter’s boyfriend’s mom read in a book that a sixteen year old girl can get emancipated by getting married. I said that I’d just read a book about that, that I was going to bring her. It turns out we read the same one at the same time: The Book Woman’s Daughter by Kim Michele Richardson. It’s about Appalachia at a time when there are people with blue skin who are forbidden to marry or have children. The girl’s parents are in jail and, to keep her safe, a boy has offered to marry her. But she gets her emancipation on her own.
In this case, the boyfriend and his mom would gladly arrange the marriage, and facilitate the divorce if that’s what she wants in two years. But in the book, the dad had to approve the marriage, so I don’t know that it would work. But it’s certainly a sign something will.
I then checked out the FBI’s parental kidnappings since 1986:
On May 23, 2022, the United States District Court for the Western District of North Carolina, Charlotte, North Carolina, issued a federal warrant for the arrest of Javeria Shahani for Unlawful Flight to Avoid Prosecution. Shahani is accused of taking her 3-year-old son to Pakistan violating a state custody order.
Leslie Delbecq and her mother, Jeanine De Riddere, are wanted for their alleged involvement in the kidnapping of Leslie Delbecq's daughter, Gabrielle Dahm, from Broward County, Florida, in 2010. Leslie Delbecq is the ex-wife of Christopher Dahm, Gabrielle's biological father. In January 2010, during a court hearing in Florida, Delbecq and Dahm were awarded joint custody of Gabrielle. However, it is alleged that Leslie Delbecq and Jeanine De Riddere arranged for Gabrielle to be taken from Florida on August 2, 2010, and arrive in Abu Dhabi, United Arab Emirates, on August 4, 2010. On August 4, 2010, Leslie Delbecq failed to return Gabrielle to her father, Christopher Dahm, as stated in the Broward County Court order. Gabrielle is believed to have been moved to Abu Dhabi in violation of the court order that denied Leslie Delbecq's request to relocate to Abu Dhabi with Gabrielle, and stated that Gabrielle is to remain in the United States. On June 21, 2011, Leslie Delbecq and Jeanine De Riddere were indicted for international parental kidnapping by a Federal Grand Jury for the United States District Court, Southern District of Florida. Federal warrants were issued for their arrests.
On June 16, 2008, Reiko Nakata Greenberg-Collins is believed to have left Santa Ana, California, with her six-year-old son, Keisuke Christian Collins, and travelled to Japan. At the time, Greenberg-Collins was involved in a custody dispute with the child's father, who was originally scheduled for visitation that evening. A warrant for child abduction was issued by Orange County, California, on August 26, 2008. A federal arrest warrant was issued on September 15, 2008, by the United States District Court, Central District of California, after Greenberg-Collins was charged with unlawful flight to avoid prosecution.
Francesconi is a chef and enjoys fine cuisine. She may display erratic behavior. Francesconi speaks English, Spanish and Italian fluently. Francesconi has dual citizenship in Argentina and Italy. Francesconi has tattoos on her back, lower abdomen, and right ankle. Maria Belen Francesconi is wanted for her alleged involvement in the kidnapping of her son, Michael Alexander Reyes, from Miami, Florida. Francesconi no longer has legal custody of Michael. On August 31, 2008, shortly after the birth of her son, Michael, Francesconi travelled to Argentina to visit family with Michael. Michael's father, Miguel Reyes, authorized the foreign travel with the agreement that Francesconi would return to the United States with their son. However, Francesconi never returned to the United States and ceased all contact with Reyes. Michael was located by Interpol in Argentina.
On November 27, 2009, the Civil Court, pursuant to the Hague Convention, ordered the return of Michael to the United States. On December 21, 2010, the Supreme Court of Argentina upheld the decision of the Civil Court and ordered the return of Michael to the United States. That order has yet to be executed, and the child remains in Argentina. On March 26, 2012, the Florida Miami-Dade Family Court issued a final judgment, finding Reyes to be Michael's natural and biological father, and ordered physical and legal custody of Michael to Reyes. On June 25, 2013, Francesconi was indicted for international parental kidnapping by a Federal Grand Jury for the United States District Court, Southern District of Florida. That same day, a federal warrant was issued for Francesconi's arrest.
In 2013, Marcelle da Rocha Guimaraes, in violation of United States court order, allegedly took her son Nicolas Scott Brann from the United States and traveled to Brazil. Both mother and son have not returned to the United States. In May 2018, Guimaraes' co-conspirators were convicted of international parental kidnapping for their involvement in this matter.
During the course of their relationship, Francina Fernandez and her boyfriend had three boys, who are now adults. The couple never married and in June of 2001 the relationship ended. The two became embroiled in a very lengthy and aggressive custody-visitation dispute in the San Diego Family Court. In early November of 2004, the mother reportedly mentioned to the father that she and the children were planning a 2-week vacation in New Zealand. He told her that the trip would violate the court orders, and Fernandez's attorney was served with a notice of an ex-parte hearing scheduled for November 8, 2004. At the hearing, a judge ordered that neither parent could take the children out of the jurisdiction of the court and that the children's passports were to be relinquished. The passports were never returned. Also, in November it was reported that Fernandez abruptly left her job and a relative filed a missing person's report for her. Fernandez may have fled with her children to the Philippines.
Jennifer Lea Settle is wanted in South Carolina for allegedly abducting her 11-year-old daughter McKenna Butcher. Law enforcement received information that, following a family court order, full custody of McKenna was given to her father. McKenna went missing from Taylors, South Carolina, on April 25, 2019. McKenna may be in the company of her mother Jennifer Settle. An arrest warrant was issued for Jennifer Lea Settle by the state of South Carolina after she was charged with custodial interference.
In addition there are six men. Two are Egyptians who took their children to Egypt or Turkey, one is an Imam and TV host from Oman who didn’t allow his son to go back to the US. A Lebanese dad abducted his kids, who were recovered safely. A Latino dad took his son in 1997, not across the border. And the real estate broker who kidnapped his sons in 1986 has a $25K reward and should be considered armed and dangerous—although his sons would be in their 30’s to 40’s, if still living.
None of these situations seem as urgent as the one I’m talking about. These moms have become international fugitives for loving their kids and wanting them to be raised with family and community. No one who takes a child away from a mom, especially a newborn, cares about the welfare of the child. It’s a power play.
In the spiritual sense, I believe this situation will show us that things will work out, no matter how impossible they seem. The first step in forgiveness is to take away the ability to do more harm. All the institutions of patriarchal authority are failing us—we just don’t need them anymore. In this situation and the larger CovidCon, there is no forgiveness without first taking away the power to do more harm.
My objective is a world that puts children at the center, surrounded by women, who are surrounded by men. The bond between a mother and child is sacred. It can’t be severed without inflicting trauma and damage on the child. If we’re a society that cares about the welfare of children, it has to start by respecting the relationship of the mother.
To follow up, this is Be the Meanest Mom Ever, Your Kids Will Thank You...Eventually
Before anyone is qualified to write rules for self-governance, they should first raise kids who are an asset to the household and know how to clean a toilet. The only legitimate use of power is to give someone power over themselves. In this response to Russell's interview of Philippa Perry (UtS 170) on Self-Awareness & Parenting, I advise "Be the meanest mom ever, your kids will thank you ... eventually." I ask if modeling works and whether parenting is harder than it should be, and then divulge the best tricks I learned from other moms when raising my daughters.
Sad to say, the conclusion I reached - later than I should have - is that the system is not there to serve us. It is weaponized to control, manipulate and harvest us. Democracy, free speech and justice are, at best, a pretense. To protect our own best interests, we need to think and act accordingly.
"We're here from the Government and we are here to help -- don't worry we will MAKE you trust us." There are bad parents out there, but there are far fewer of them than the Child / Human Traffickers that are operating the CIA; FBI; ICE and all others. Families must protect their children; stop trusting government to do it. PERIOD.