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The "Mommy Wars" are as dumb as all of the manufactured conflicts. They keep us at each other's throats instead of coming together to solve common problems. All of this nonsense derives from the absurd notion that there is any "right" way to be a male or a female. When so much of our experience is socially constructed and far removed from nature, all this stuff is just stuff we made up.

I also feel the rights and needs of children are often forgotten in these male-female oriented discussions, so I appreciate your summation, Tereza, which is relevant good advice that pertains to dozens of other divisive cultural issues: "Instead of berating other women, question the stories of superiority. Question the systems that serve a few at the expense of all of us. Especially question anything that doesn’t serve the children."

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Katie! How excellent to have your mom wisdom gracing my 'stack!

Coming from a radical Christian perspective, like many of my favorite peeps, I think you'll get this reference. The liberation theologians say that everyone has a bias and it should always be stated. They have a 'preferential option for the poor.' My position is a 'preferential option for mothers.' I don't claim to be unbiased. My bias is that a society that serves mothers also serves the children, and that should be our priority.

You may have already heard my definition of tonic masculinity as a society that puts children at the center, surrounded by women, surrounded by men.

And yes, it didn't occur to me until later that Michael had endorsed the #1 story and #1 system of patriarchy: the OT and capitalism, while saying that we've never had a patriarchal society.

Thanks for your clarity!

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“…a society that serves the mothers also serves the children” resonates real hard with me. Just like any polarity based conversations, I don’t particularly like to lean into what ‘archy’ would make the better leader, there are strengths and weaknesses in both genders, and both masculinity and femininity leaves inside every human. And if we’re bonded to our gender trauma, we will pass it on to the next generation.

Being a mom to three boys does put some things in perspective tho- what can I teach them that I’ve learned didn’t serve me as a woman so they don’t inflict that damage on the girls they have in their lives down the line.

Your video made me lol a few times. Gonna go back now and see them memes.

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Those are some memes worth stealing, eh? The cat head was really a stretch to make work but how could I resist? And the deviled egg? I've tried to tell people the vertebrae one and they both said, 'That sounds like a chiropractor meme.' Without getting to see that little face and imagine it holding you up, it just doesn't translate.

Someone pointed out awhile ago to me that matriarchy is just another archy--a word that means archons or rulers. I wonder sometimes if the Matrix movie was a way of discrediting that word. It made a mother-network into the false 'reality' while the 'real' one was vicious and ugly. Especially since learning both Kohn brothers transitioned into women.

It felt good to let the snark fly on this. But every one of the speakers had a kernel of truth. Our compassion has been weaponized or, as I titled one video, Is Our Love Being Pimped for Profit? The feminist movement has been turned into an academic bludgeon against men. And children do belong with their mothers and to their mothers. Nothing makes that clearer than the series I'm working on called Courting Abuse, looking at the legal system.

Hannah, in the interview, talks about her son being happiest running into things and yelling, "Hulk smash!" I didn't experience that side of parenting but I agree with her that our sedentary school system is counter to male energy--and kid energy in general, but boys even more so.

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Thats the main reason one of the twins just can’t do institutionalized school. He tried it. He barely lasted two weeks. Simply couldn’t understand why they make you sit still and listen to someone yell at ya day in and day out. I actually need to go back and watch Hannah’s link.

Interesting about Matrix holding etymology from matriarchy. I’m one of Mathew Crawford’s pieces he introduces the word ‘maitreya’ which translates to ‘Messiah’ or something akin to that and it made me think it could be the root for Matrix as well.

The deviled egg made me giggle. So clever.

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I agree with the twin who can't sit still. I'm incapable of listening to a lecture these days. I have to be doing something with my hands or I go stir-crazy. In my deschooling vision, farm chores or painting or building is done while listening to some talk--could be ear buds or a radio. Others prepare lunch. And everyone talks about it while they're eating.

Matri just means mother. So matrix is the simpler form. The archons were all male by definition so 'matriarchy' is really a contradiction in terms.

So interesting about maitreya as the future Bodhisattva or Buddha. And curious that's still referred to as 'he.' I'm working on a collab with Amy, the AI genie-us, for my next feminine post on Round Body Advocate. She's come up with some stunning images, turning my ideas into prompts. I was just thinking that I wanted to do a female Buddha. And here you are, giving me a name for her! One that clearly means Mother ;-)

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Oooo, Im looking to read about that! You’re right, why is it a “he”?!?

Your deschooling vision very closely resembles mine. Right before covid, a few friends and I had started doing intense research on purchasing land to start an intentional community where we can have our kids roam nature and learn from one another and us adults would impart our knowledge in an apprenticeship type setting. Of course, those ended up being some of the same people that went hard on the vax and I can help but think that I would have so gotten voted off the island.

I’m excited to read your book, because you speak of fiefdoms and I’m interested in these kinds of parallel societies where the community is integrated and works together to achieve common goals. Throughout my research in seeing how other intentional communities have succeeded or failed, I noticed a pattern: usually religious or faith based communities survived longer and had better relations. It would appear that if the community had a higher goal or commonality that brought them together, they were more likely to weather through internal storms.

Sorry, that’s a bit off topic, but I’m just catching up to my digital life today and it’s what your response brought out of me.

Gonna shut up now and await yours and Amy’s collab. 🙌

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Enough with the male vs female nonsense -- it's just bear baiting, and I refuse to engage anymore.

PS LOVE the devilled egg!!

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Ope! Stole a few!

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😊Thanks for the nuanced explanation. As currently configured, yes, women and children have been abandoned by our society and left to the capitalist wolves.

To realize a healthy and productive future for our grandchildren, our priorities would need to change radically. If we truly valued healthy human development, it would only make sense that children would be cared for and protected as you describe, in concentric circles of both female and male community members.

For sure, matriarchy is certainly no guarantee of achieving a kinder, gentler, more sane society; a certain feminist ideology is not only condescending, myopic and self serving, as you so snarkily describe, but can be downright hostile towards children.

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Yes! I want no 'archies' at all. My image of the matrix is the honeycomb, with the purpose of communities being to support families. My economic model is an-archist, rule by rules, not rulers. So it gives the most possible freedom of choice within a design that keeps things fair. It's like raising kids to be responsible adults, but scaling it up to a community--backed by the intergenerational legacy of housing.

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"Real men sleep in caves with a rock for a pillow."

Damn! I knew I was doing something wrong! Thanks for the correction.

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Despite the plethora of manly virtues displayed in your last post on cabin construction, your admission that your ex was handier with a hammer than you permanently disqualifies you as a masculine male on the Tsarion scale. The best you can hope for is chivalric. But at least you're not a 'crawled out of the slime' feminine male or a 'fucking loathsome soy boy.' You need to practice your disdain of all women and most other men if you're going to climb that ladder.

But on the 'rock for pillow' scale, Gan from my 3P YT writes, "I do prefer a cave & rock pillow to big brother/nanny state city's" and goes on to say his combat saber club made the front page of the local paper and his pole dancing studio has introduced blacklight roller (skate) pole. So I think you need to include these in your new hobbies, along with taking the long (and hard) way round ;-)

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Jun 29·edited Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Yes, I do think my ex was pretty awesome in many ways, especially in the hard work she did with me building that house, and the epic backpacking trips she did: the AT (twice), the PCT, the CDT, the Long Trail (twice). The fact that she was also verbally abusive doesn't change that.

I actually may be able to do this cave + rock pillow thing. I have some great rocks here, and this being Gold Country, there are plenty of abandoned mines in the area that could work as caves. Not sure about the pole dancing, though -- too old for that now.

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I love that about you, Mark, that you didn't need to throw out everything that was good about your ex while getting out of range of the verbal abuse. It's a very nuanced view that gives you credit for what drew you to her, at the same time as crediting her.

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“I am permanently morally outraged, which doesn’t require me to be logical.”

SNAP! Incredible that a friend just invited me to join him in reading and analysing this …

• The Female Illuminati & Other Secret Societies (Article 1 of 8)

https://www.femaleilluminati.com/article-1.html

So I blame Yolande de Anjou (Duchess of Lorraine) and the Order of Sion.

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What a well written and fascinating article! The Priory of Sion a female illuminati society!

I haven't finished it, but it's interesting too that it talks about the "Roman branch of the ancient Setian-Atonist "Black Lodge". So there is Set(h) coming back up again. I'll look forward to your analysis, if you're putting that online.

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Goodness, deep research here. Absolutely fascinating.

(Frances Leader would love this, or perhaps she's already familiar).

My parents are Belfast-born, so especially nice to learn of Michael. Listened to an interview of his today and am very curious to understand the Druids in irishoriginsofcivilazation.com.

You're a finder of gems :-)

Thank you (as well as Tereza).

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Small change in the spelling brought it up: https://www.irishoriginsofcivilization.com/.

Interesting site!

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Oops! Ty

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I am going to absorb what I can and not form any opinions just yet.

“Listen to everyone, read everything; believe absolutely nothing unless you can prove it in your own right!” - Milton William Cooper

• William Cooper (Hour of the Time) Collection

https://www.hourofthetime.com/milton-william-bill-cooper-mp3-collection/

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Jun 29·edited Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

And Tereza "delivers" the "Mother" of all substacks - or at least for the dragon moms and the flying monkey (catz) moms...

You have such a gift - you are a gift, actually, you so often stir me (curse me) inspire me to look at my own life choices - and you pull out of me so much self-reflection.

I could write a book on this one - but I will share this stellar stack and add some comments rather than write a novel here in your comments section.

Thank you for this amazing post, such wisdom and sass...who doesn't love you madly?

Tsarion is an interesting character. He helped Whitehead with his series "Cult of the Medics" which is really good if you haven't seen it. I used to speak at UFO conferences and after one of my lectures Tsarion hunted me down and gave me a copy of The Dulce Papers...👀 👽 YIKES, since I had talked for almost two hours about some ETs -and Reptilian critters. We talked for hours. I've been meaning to give him a spanking for going behind a paywall in the midst of a worldwide democide...but I'd have to charge him for the spanking and he would obviously be a lousy tipper.

And please, never worry about stealing memes, no credit needed - ever...my snarky memes are your memes...

A really smart, fun and thought-provoking stack, and I'll have more to say when I repost it, otherwise I'll never shut up, and I have flying monkeys to tend to...

But, know that I love men too...such awesome alien creatures...I hate that they have been, and are still, taking such a beating...

Here's to the cabana boyz in our lives...🍸

thx again...just great! 💖💞

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When I got to "who doesn't love you madly?" I just had to hug myself. I knew that was the response you wanted to invoke ;-)

I can see why Tsarion would be drawn to you--who better exemplifies feminine on the outside and masculine reasoning, drive and research on the inside? If he stuck to the ideas he's critiquing and not the people, there are many places I think we'd agree (well, maybe not on the sexual strangulation ...)

I do see women, in particular, falling into 'muddy thinking' about how to take care of everyone. It's the wrong question--the right one is "How could we enable families and communities to take care of themselves?" But Tsarion doesn't ask either.

The first time I took a Worldanz class, she played the song "It's Raining Men" and I knew I was there to stay. Over the top, campy choreo. If there happens to be a man in class, he gets the adulation treatment. I do so wish for a world where we could just like each other and have fun again! Things have gotten much too serious.

Can't wait to read your stack!

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Yep...that was a love bomb!!! And I do have a lot of masculine energy...I like it...

and over the top, campy...I get that...dance classes are always fun and empowering - and men do get special treatment at those type events...

things are pretty fukking serious right now, but we do like each other and we try to have as much fun as we can...while we can...memes help a lot...! Mwah!

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Probably off-topic but... we're all children. Humans are just apes who never grow up.

Even our companions display considerable degree of neoteny if you compare them to their wild counterparts – dogs to wolves, cats to wild cats etc. Guinea pigs are probably the most childish of our domestic animals but that's likely a result of several thousand years of adverse self-selection.

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Adverse self-selection! Meaning that they're bred as pets because they lack the intelligence of rats to live free and have humans serve them?

I just mentioned today's cartoon of yours to Kevin Barrett, who had an excellent piece of satire: https://kevinbarrett.substack.com/p/nyt-urges-biden-to-die-run-as-corpse

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Guinea pigs were domesticated long-long ago, according to some as early as 5000 BC. There are few trees in the Andean highlands, and it's somewhat hard to build a secure pen for such small animals. So over the time, all the smart and brave ones ran away, leaving only the stupid and timid behind.

This of course is just a hypothesis but to my knowledge there is no better explanation how they came to be.

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

To quote King Ferdinand, "Isabella, when are you gonna quit fooling around with these nuts?" https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qiqdb518wZ8 (If you stop at 3:19 in, you'll miss the musical #.) www.youtube.com/watch?v=YAQE36oX-8s www.youtube.com/watch?v=saZIl-VHbvw

From QE2, that I first found in 1980...I thought he wrote them both...surprise! Scroll comments in #2. Haz Empire & haz brazz... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pJYVYZWTHYY

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

By 'these nuts' I was meaning the Tsarion dude...teacher (scuzi, la Professora) and therapist...do with them what you will...but please don't cancel Lady Diana Rigg for that Queen of Sin scene.

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Jun 29Liked by Tereza Coraggio

Excellent Tereza 🏆

Listened throughout with a smile :-)

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Glad to have made you smile, Pauline, and even chuckle ;-)

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Jul 1Liked by Tereza Coraggio

I'll have to read this one again Tereza, so I can better understand it. I love the quote about dragon-slaying and waking up in the morning.

Unrelated, but may be interesting to you: I've made definitions of 'champion' and 'hero', in which 'champion' would be one who represents others, for example, the village selects a champion, to represent them. Thus, championship, which is not 'i'm the best', but to see who might be qualified. Hero on the other hand is an agent (as in agency, the nature of life) who does substantive things for others, not so different from a champion. But let's just say, that a hero/ine is one who slays monsters.

Here's the rhetorical question: would you/i rather be a hero among champions, or a champion among heroes? If you could only choose one, and adjust the context however.

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Thanks shaqer. The word hero is one I've started to think of as another trick. It's used to indicate the one divinely appointed to rule in hierarchy. It's the earthly incarnation of god in Heiros gamos. Jerusalem was Hieropolis. Are hieroglyphics part of this?

So many of the laudatory (case in point) words we have subconsciously bow to the rulers. We say someone's intentions are noble or honorable, both terms granted by the king. We talk about 'regal bearing' even when most kings were rotund. It's actually hard to find words of praise that don't harken back.

And I think 'hero' may be a complete inversion. It took the sneaky and ruthless theocracy behind the throne and made them into the 'champions' of the people. And I'd bet that word too would have an etymological story behind it.

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I didn't know that about the word hero. I always took it mean the simple storybook definition and never looked further i.e. "one who slays monsters", or "one who does incredible things".

Personally, I think I prefer hero among champions, rather than champion among heroes.

It's more egotistical maybe.

(Aside, I read somewhere that Jerusalem is _coincidentally_ a major city in Palestine/Canaan (and that the name Canaan actually applies to Syria in general, not just Palestine in the sense it is used today). Something about the sacking of another city, resulting in the growth of (what became) Jerusalem. I am certain of this. But I wouldn't trust a Zionist archaeologist / historian if any can be called archaeologist / historian, and I don't think any truly can.

Maybe, Jerusalem's providence is comparable to how 1200s CE Russia proper, other settlements were more vulnerable to raids compared to Muscovy, so that post-Mongol, Muscovy became a central city. A lot of what happens is random, I think.)

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Excellent smack down. Tsarion has some wonderfully provocative theories (and his book on Astrotheology is highly recommended) but I find something about him very unpalatable.

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Thank you, Isaac. There seems to be a lot of anger in Tsarion. More directed towards other men who don't live up to his standards than even towards women. Why say anyone 'just crawled out of the slime' or is 'fucking loathsome'? If I were to say those things about men, all three speakers would accuse me of man-bashing. And they'd be right!

Interesting concept of astrotheology--I'm not even sure what it means. I'll wait for you to explain the concepts in your stack, where I can get thorough research, clever word play and deep insight, all without putting anyone down (except in such a nuanced way we're left guessing--is slippery good or bad? ;-)

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Astrotheology argues that Ancient religious/spiritual texts have their ultimate origins in the telling of the movement of the Skyclock (i.e. the birth of Jesus to a Virgin mother is an allusion to the interplay between the Sun and the Constellation of Virgo. "Astrotheology and Sidereal Mythology" is excellent at summarising that argument, however even then he can't help but to ridicule and speak down to anyone who interprets these stories as historical.

Well: we aren't even half way through the Slippery One's chart, but I would say for now that the only appropriate way to explore a highly ambiguous character is through similarly ambiguous means...

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Ah, yes I have seen that before. It imparts a charming innocence to stories that were the justification for bloodshed, torture, enslavement and rule over all by divine right. Just a lovely bedtime story written in the stars that's been misunderstood for 2000 yrs. Not a vicious psyops at all that deified the most ruthless magalomaniacs (sic) and forced us to bow down to them.

I wonder why Tsarion doesn't apply the theory of astrotheology to the 'crimes of women in the OT'? He seems to take that literally, not as Virgo cavorting with the belt of Orion (is there a snake constellation?) Despite his ridicule of those who take the Bible as history, he seems to do the same when it suits his purpose.

And yes on ambiguous means for ambiguous characters! Being specifically ambiguous is the key to a good horoscope, as I analyzed with my FORMER favorite astrologer: https://thirdparadigm.substack.com/p/tonic-masculinity-and-feminine-wiles. Thanks, Isaac!

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That 10th House Mars 🔥

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I like it when you're fixin to get into trouble, Tereza.

And appreciate the summary of Tsarion's talk which I know I don't have the patience to listen to.

Too fun, very insightful, particularly when you include direct quote and then translate meaning. Ouch. And, yes!

I look forward to humanity growing up, so that these kinds of debates, and theories, steeped in bias and idiocy, are something we look back and at laugh about. Soon would be good.

Children surrounded by women surround by men - love it.

Thanks for an excellent read and fun memes.

Best.

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"Soon would be good." From your lips to dog's ears.

It always encourages my sass when I think of you listening, Kathleen. Isn't that you in the ten-gallon hat? It's just how I'd picture a pint-sized Kathleen, gumption and all.

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😊 Oh, 'sass-encourager' is good. I'll put that up there with 'ambiance-elevator' which was (when I worked full time) often how I answered the question, 'what do you do?' with.

lol. It's such a great meme. I think we both have that pint-sized kid in us with that uncontainable spirit behind it.

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