Doesn't this all come down to the fact that human beings are pretty much all broken in some way or another, and it is our spiritual journey on Earth that allows us to learn how to heal ourselves and emerge as whole, loving beings. Hopefully, most can accomplish this before they become parents. There are bad parents (who are bad people in general), and there are bad husbands and wives, bad bosses, bad teachers, bad students, etc. The government cannot fix all the bad, partially because it is impossible but mostly because the government is also bad!!
This is not a societal or psychological issue. It is a spiritual issue. We need to evolve as a species which includes removing evil, greed, violence from our psyches. We cannot fix the problem of bad parenting (and Tereza's parenting worked very well, thank you) with bad/overreaching governing of parents, other than setting up a system to protect our children from real harm. Oops! We did that, it is called Child Protective Services, and they are deeply involved in Child Sex Trafficking. That didn't work very well, did it? Yet, it still exists.
Bad government. Liars. Cheaters, Pedophiles. Pedophiles beget new pedophiles who continue the destruction of children's lives even as their own was destroyed.
Rather than policing parents, let's get rid of all the pedophiles, let's stop the indoctrination of our species in government schools that spit out blue-haired morons who want to transgender our children. We have an enormous amount of work to do, but handing over our children's well-being to any government organization is treason against our children. They are ours to love, to cherish, to teach and guide as best we can, to keep them safe and imbue them with values that will take them through their lives and enable them to be successful in love, in career, in community. No government can give that to our children.
This man's argument is a tiny drop of water in an ocean of insanity that we all must grow beyond, and soon. In my humble opinion.
Thanks for the acknowledgment that my parenting worked for my family, Nathan ;-) You speak as a dad, yes? This is beautifully said, "They are ours to love, to cherish, to teach and guide as best we can, to keep them safe and imbue them with values that will take them through their lives and enable them to be successful in love, in career, in community."
In the story about my best friend, I think that her fear about what her son 'was' kept her from responding to his behavior as mere behavior. Behavior is what we do, and it can be changed. Character is who we are, and can't. I don't believe that anyone is bad or evil, but I certainly believe that behaviors are bad and even evil.
As you say, every pedophile was once a victim. The first step is ending the behavior by not giving opportunity, I think. A YT listener who was himself abused as a child said that his path to forgiveness was seeing it as a reaction to the slavery system imposed on all of us. And he's very active in stopping the cycle, when he sees it play out in others.
I see healing and the spiritual journey as the reason we're here too.
Ha! Blaze is my nickname since high school, a shortened version of my (maiden) last name. In the Catholic church, there is a St. Blaise, who is patron saint of the throat/voice, but I've only known one person with THAT name. It's unique and I like being different.
My first reaction was WTF did I just read? And also, great job Tereza! 🎉🎖️ 🏆 I don't see parenting per se as the problem of the world. And in his paradigm children are already capable of being adults but they aren't. Hell even adults are incapable of it sometimes.😂 Humans have a long learning and growing period before they are ready to be kicked out of the nest. We're not like birds ... Good luck, kid, now fly! We're more like elephants who stay with their parents for 16 years before leaving and often stay in the same herd. Children can be adults when they are adults. Before that they need nurturing and guidance. Just my 2 cents. ( I too have successful adult children.)
Oh yay! I laughed so hard at this, Heather. I was hoping for my fellow moms to weigh in. Of all things to target, let's pick on parents, who are muddling through with everything stacked against them. What's going to get us out of this mess is strengthening the family and community, helping and supporting those doing the hardest and most satisfying job there is ... not to mention, most essential.
As my daughters would say to this, 'my eyes are pre-rolled.' ;-) And here's hoping that we can get more of our elephants to stay in the same herd. That forced economic migration that I talk about in The Great Displacement is definitely part of the dispossession agenda.
Pre rolled, I love that. Gonna use it on my daughter. She's always surprised when I use new slang. Like I couldn't be that cool. I have a meme about the absurdity of forced moving out at 18...Totally agree about staying in the herd.
Oh you're who I got that meme from! I already used it at the end of my last post on the second chapter of my book: https://open.substack.com/pub/thirdparadigm/p/02-making-a-market-for-plunder. And now I could go back and edit in my thanks! Since I move them to my desktop, they lose their place of origin--just like us! But as Rat said on his last World Entertainment Friday, culture is appropriation! So I'm feeling very cultured, since I only steal from the best ;-)
Thank you for the credit....I've made them for years and never put my name on them...just glad they get shared. I often see mine and some of my fellow memers memes from our old facebook group. 💕
Thanks, this was so informative. I’m pregnant with my first baby and I will be using your point system when he is growing up!
In regards to trying to reason with young children… I see my friend try to explain to her daughter about how her bad behavior is inappropriate. Nothing is ever accomplished because the daughter is too young to understand. I like how your system of taking away a point immediately makes the unwanted behavior seem less appealing.
Oh congratulations Anneke! I'm so excited for you. My hairdresser jokes about how she secretly scoffed at my system until the exact day her daughter turned two, and it was like a light had switched. It and the Four Agreements she credits with saving her. And now her daughter has a little baby boy, so the cycle continues.
You might like that 'be the meanest mom' video too, it has some great tips I learned from other moms of three daughters. One was to have a time once a week when everyone cleans the house. No points involved, just what you do.
My oldest two, and my hairdresser's daughter, have all become a little fanatic on the cleaning. The youngest, who we always called the mouse, can do a deep clean but likes her space cluttered like a rat's nest. But they're all taken aback by other young people who don't even see the dirt, because they've never been responsible for it.
Maybe I'll even get the book finished by the time your son's ready: Don't Get Mad, Get Even: How to Raise Balanced Kids in a Tilted World.
I might have to try some variation on that point system with my kids— it sounds like a great idea, I just wonder if I can stay organized and consistent enough to keep track!
I absolutely agree with you about the once a week when everyone helps clean, and schoolwork and basic household responsibilities not being tied to a reward system.
And I had to laugh at the idea that parents should only try to influence their children’s behavior through reasoning, not through any form of reward or punishment. My take on that imaginary scenario, how to get a child not to run on a concrete floor while holding a baby, would be to say that any child capable of using language should be able to understand the difference between “stop doing that, it’s annoying/disruptive/rude” and “stop, that’s dangerous!” Part of learning the difference is in experiencing different consequences depending on the seriousness of the situation, and explaining the potential consequences/redirecting the behavior comes after the immediate danger has passed.
My approach to time-outs: it’s not a punishment, it’s a break, meant to give everyone an opportunity to calm down and redirect, and it lasts as long as they feel like they need it to. Confiscating a toy for a certain amount of time would be framed as a punishment, and being made to stay within eyesight while siblings are free to play elsewhere would be framed as a consequence of me not trusting them to behave otherwise. I also never forced them to apologize— what’s the point if it’s not sincere?— only to promise not to repeat the behavior in question.
I wouldn’t say that any of this adds up to a perfect system, but so far it’s worked well enough that they were able to gather kindling, bring in firewood, feed the dogs, wash the dishes, and generally fend for themselves while I spent all day in bed with a fever yesterday.
If the goal is to raise children to be capable, confident, conscientious individuals who are able to exercise self-determination in their lives, it seems counterproductive to me to act as if we’re all just automatically born that way.
You are clearly in the trenches, SlowWalker! My oldest, Veronica, who studied child psychology for a Master's and is a grief counselor for children, also laughed at the idea that parents should use reasoning to convince the child to voluntarily change their behavior, even when doing something dangerous.
I told her a guy labeled me an authoritarian parent. She texted back, "Well your kid says he is wrong" and attached an article on authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting styles. Authoritative, which she's used to describe my style before, is neither punishing nor permissive. And she says, "Let them know that you're definitely known for giving explanations." Ad nauseum, I think ;-)
I love that your time-outs last as long as they think they need. Time-outs didn't work for me but maybe that's girls or just a different set of issues.
In a dangerous situation, the word 'stop' should suffice. I'm thinking of a time my youngest was racing a friend to the corner, and then darted across the street to get to the car first. School speed zones have never been such a godsend. Obviously, with that kid a contrarian, stop meant run faster.
As one mom to another (is that true from the email Jane?) congratulations on your household humming along smoothly while you're running a fever. Good job!
Yes, I’m a mother of four— two boys and two girls. The oldest is in college, the others are all between 8 and 12. And yes, it’s definitely different with boys… the line between play-fighting and real fighting can be hard to determine sometimes, but it’s certainly more straightforward than the bickering between sisters! The rule about no forced apologies came about after a handful of incidents where little sister gave a begrudgingly muttered “sorry” and big sister responded with “well, you don’t sound sorry, I don’t believe you!” It didn’t take long to realize that the likely outcome would be a convincing liar, just like the middle-school terrorist you described. But really, each of them are so different that I wouldn’t assume that what worked for one child would necessarily work for another… for most of them, the self-determined break times rarely lasted more than ten minutes, but for my older son they could easily stretch to an hour… just a matter of needing personal space in a crowded household, I guess.
“Machiavellian midgets” is way better! But I just came up with a really silly poem that I wanted to share, as well as a hypothetical question about your point system. One thing that’s appealing about your strategy is that it seems to be very much in line with some parenting advice I came across several years ago that really stuck with me (I’m sorry, I can’t remember where I read this, but I promise I’m not just making it up). This author claimed that children who are consistently rewarded/given positive feedback based on effort tend to be less risk-averse later in life, more willing to try new things and less likely to give up on things they’re not immediately good at, compared to children who are rewarded primarily for tangible success (making the honor roll, starting quarterback, soloist in the concert, etc.) If this is true, then the idea of rewarding time spent on activities you as a parent consider worthwhile but not necessary seems like an excellent strategy. So my hypothetical question is, what if one of your kids decided after a year or two that they really didn’t have any interest in learning to play a musical instrument, or learn a foreign language, or whatever they’d been earning points by working on? What if they wanted to spend all of their free time skateboarding, or swimming, or volunteering at an animal shelter? Or, to put it another way, can you come up with some simple criteria that are as universally applicable and separate from your own personal preferences as possible for what kinds of activities should be considered points-worthy?
And here’s my goofy little ode to my goofy little boys:
Two brothers, lacking any dignity
(in the living room, where we lay our scene)
From sheer boredom break to new mutiny,
Where glitter-glue makes everything unclean.
Both clad in armor forged from beanbag chairs
With battle-cries of utter nonsense words,
They charge, the static crazy in their hair,
And fall upon the ground like little birds.
These vessels of kinetic energy,
Stopping for nothing but hunger and snow,
Battle endlessly without enmity
As if they were living a cartoon show.
Though I cannot with patient ears attend,
When a beanbag tears, with needle and thread I’ll mend.
As a great Gramma, I bow to your experience! You've got my 88 yrs of combined parenting beat by a mile ;-) However, I feel for parents today. There's tremendous pressure in having to make a dual-income mortgage, taking away the choice of moms to devote their work to the family and community. I think feminism should have gone the other direction, and enabled men to also work for family and community, instead of forcing women into the 'market.'
And I see parents with good hearts who are at their wit's end. Every Disney channel show is about parents being subservient to their much wiser offspring. Kids are raised by peers exactly their own age, who far outnumber the adults in the school system. And the purpose to which they're directed is competition--for grades, sports, college, dating.
I think that love is unconditional but stuff is not. By leveraging their ability to get the stuff they wanted, which was going to happen anyway, it made my life more (not entirely) conflict-free. I found it a useful tool, and so put it out there as one experiment. But we're each running our own experiments as parents. Congratulations on yours!
"Under [Julian] Huxley’s guidance they prepared a Guidebook for Teachers […]
The report [?Guidebook for Teachers] said on the opening page of Volume V. ”In the Classroom with Children Under Thirteen Years of Age:… Before the child enters school his mind has already been profoundly marked and often INJURIOUSLY, by earlier influences … first gained, however dimly, in the home”
Narrator: “So UNESCO’s aim is to change the mindset of your children – to turn it against any values that the parents might install in the mind of that child … “
I don’t know anything about ‘parenting theory’ but ‘Everything Voluntary Jack’ is certainly an interesting individual. I had a couple of incidental encounters with him on Jeff J Brown’s forum [with whom I don’t always agree] and discovered that another of his passionate causes is the Uyghurs of Xinjiang versus the Chinese government.
What intrigued me about those encounters is that he cites BBC and CNN as his primary sources and promotes individuals who are [Jeff’s words] “Soros financed, color revolution whores.” E V Jack sounds very Jordan Peterson-ish and somewhat Freudian, with lots of logical fallacy and very logorrhoeic.
Haha, logorrhoeic. I had to look that up but it certainly fits.
Interesting about the Uyghurs. I thought I read something very eye-opening about them in Vanessa Beeley, but I'm only finding her excellent long history of Syria: https://beeley.substack.com/p/syria-a-fallen-civilization-that. I wish it didn't take US aggression for me to finally learn about different places.
Oh wait, it was Oliver Boyd-Barrett citing Mike Whitney:
"TIP includes many jihadist fighters recruited from the 12 million strong Uyghur communities of Xinjiang province in north western China and which, like many other Sunni jihadi movements, receives funding from and is manipulated by Western powers for the purpose of achieving Western covert policy ambitions (often related to the development of secessionist movements, and regime-change operations). Note in passing that the current population of the Uyghurs has grown from only five million some forty years ago, one among many reasons why fabricated Western charges of a Chinese genocide of the Uyghur population are utter nonsense. This all comes back to the Brzezinski insight thst Eurasia is the globe’s largest continent, boasting two of the world’s most advnced and economically productive regions, about 75% of global population, most of the world’s physical wealth, accounting for 60% of global GNP, and 75% of the world’s known energy resources.
"There were 20,000 Uyghur jihadis in Idlib. TIP was founded in 1988 and received CIA help from its earliest days. The founder of the so-called '“East Turkestan” government-in-exile, Yusuf Turani, lives in Virginia with other senior leaders of the movement. The World Uyghur Congress (WUC) was founded in 2004 by Erkin Alptekin, a former adviser to the CIA." https://oliverboydbarrett.substack.com/p/war-of-the-acronyms-gur-to-hts-to
Yikes! I've almost made that mistake several other times and corrected. Mark Armstrong is the editor I paid to help me with my book, co-founder of the Public Banking Institute. In the end, however, very tied to the DC system. He didn't like that I called Bush Jr the Shrub, for instance. I have a feeling he was likely one of the first to don those masks and get those jabs. Happy to have moved on to Marks with a wider vista! And I'll correct that.
I've read so many of your articles and could do nothing by SMH, wondering why I didn 't unsubscribe. You're nuts and infected with a mind virus that aims to destroy and usher in a NWO. Good riddance, and I'm sure this might have the opposite of the intended effect, but pray like your life depends on it, because it does. You can comment with something resisting the truth, if you need. I won't see it. Bye.
Doesn't this all come down to the fact that human beings are pretty much all broken in some way or another, and it is our spiritual journey on Earth that allows us to learn how to heal ourselves and emerge as whole, loving beings. Hopefully, most can accomplish this before they become parents. There are bad parents (who are bad people in general), and there are bad husbands and wives, bad bosses, bad teachers, bad students, etc. The government cannot fix all the bad, partially because it is impossible but mostly because the government is also bad!!
This is not a societal or psychological issue. It is a spiritual issue. We need to evolve as a species which includes removing evil, greed, violence from our psyches. We cannot fix the problem of bad parenting (and Tereza's parenting worked very well, thank you) with bad/overreaching governing of parents, other than setting up a system to protect our children from real harm. Oops! We did that, it is called Child Protective Services, and they are deeply involved in Child Sex Trafficking. That didn't work very well, did it? Yet, it still exists.
Bad government. Liars. Cheaters, Pedophiles. Pedophiles beget new pedophiles who continue the destruction of children's lives even as their own was destroyed.
Rather than policing parents, let's get rid of all the pedophiles, let's stop the indoctrination of our species in government schools that spit out blue-haired morons who want to transgender our children. We have an enormous amount of work to do, but handing over our children's well-being to any government organization is treason against our children. They are ours to love, to cherish, to teach and guide as best we can, to keep them safe and imbue them with values that will take them through their lives and enable them to be successful in love, in career, in community. No government can give that to our children.
This man's argument is a tiny drop of water in an ocean of insanity that we all must grow beyond, and soon. In my humble opinion.
Thanks for the acknowledgment that my parenting worked for my family, Nathan ;-) You speak as a dad, yes? This is beautifully said, "They are ours to love, to cherish, to teach and guide as best we can, to keep them safe and imbue them with values that will take them through their lives and enable them to be successful in love, in career, in community."
In the story about my best friend, I think that her fear about what her son 'was' kept her from responding to his behavior as mere behavior. Behavior is what we do, and it can be changed. Character is who we are, and can't. I don't believe that anyone is bad or evil, but I certainly believe that behaviors are bad and even evil.
As you say, every pedophile was once a victim. The first step is ending the behavior by not giving opportunity, I think. A YT listener who was himself abused as a child said that his path to forgiveness was seeing it as a reaction to the slavery system imposed on all of us. And he's very active in stopping the cycle, when he sees it play out in others.
I see healing and the spiritual journey as the reason we're here too.
Agreed. One thing, though: I am a mom, Nathan is my last name!
Blaze seemed too cool to be a real name. Is it? Well no wonder you've got so much uncommon common sense ;-)
Ha! Blaze is my nickname since high school, a shortened version of my (maiden) last name. In the Catholic church, there is a St. Blaise, who is patron saint of the throat/voice, but I've only known one person with THAT name. It's unique and I like being different.
I did know an amateur pyrotechnic by that name, but that's kinda obvi ;-)
Beautifully said. ❤️💕
My first reaction was WTF did I just read? And also, great job Tereza! 🎉🎖️ 🏆 I don't see parenting per se as the problem of the world. And in his paradigm children are already capable of being adults but they aren't. Hell even adults are incapable of it sometimes.😂 Humans have a long learning and growing period before they are ready to be kicked out of the nest. We're not like birds ... Good luck, kid, now fly! We're more like elephants who stay with their parents for 16 years before leaving and often stay in the same herd. Children can be adults when they are adults. Before that they need nurturing and guidance. Just my 2 cents. ( I too have successful adult children.)
Oh yay! I laughed so hard at this, Heather. I was hoping for my fellow moms to weigh in. Of all things to target, let's pick on parents, who are muddling through with everything stacked against them. What's going to get us out of this mess is strengthening the family and community, helping and supporting those doing the hardest and most satisfying job there is ... not to mention, most essential.
As my daughters would say to this, 'my eyes are pre-rolled.' ;-) And here's hoping that we can get more of our elephants to stay in the same herd. That forced economic migration that I talk about in The Great Displacement is definitely part of the dispossession agenda.
Pre rolled, I love that. Gonna use it on my daughter. She's always surprised when I use new slang. Like I couldn't be that cool. I have a meme about the absurdity of forced moving out at 18...Totally agree about staying in the herd.
Oh you're who I got that meme from! I already used it at the end of my last post on the second chapter of my book: https://open.substack.com/pub/thirdparadigm/p/02-making-a-market-for-plunder. And now I could go back and edit in my thanks! Since I move them to my desktop, they lose their place of origin--just like us! But as Rat said on his last World Entertainment Friday, culture is appropriation! So I'm feeling very cultured, since I only steal from the best ;-)
Thank you for the credit....I've made them for years and never put my name on them...just glad they get shared. I often see mine and some of my fellow memers memes from our old facebook group. 💕
Thanks, this was so informative. I’m pregnant with my first baby and I will be using your point system when he is growing up!
In regards to trying to reason with young children… I see my friend try to explain to her daughter about how her bad behavior is inappropriate. Nothing is ever accomplished because the daughter is too young to understand. I like how your system of taking away a point immediately makes the unwanted behavior seem less appealing.
Oh congratulations Anneke! I'm so excited for you. My hairdresser jokes about how she secretly scoffed at my system until the exact day her daughter turned two, and it was like a light had switched. It and the Four Agreements she credits with saving her. And now her daughter has a little baby boy, so the cycle continues.
You might like that 'be the meanest mom' video too, it has some great tips I learned from other moms of three daughters. One was to have a time once a week when everyone cleans the house. No points involved, just what you do.
My oldest two, and my hairdresser's daughter, have all become a little fanatic on the cleaning. The youngest, who we always called the mouse, can do a deep clean but likes her space cluttered like a rat's nest. But they're all taken aback by other young people who don't even see the dirt, because they've never been responsible for it.
Maybe I'll even get the book finished by the time your son's ready: Don't Get Mad, Get Even: How to Raise Balanced Kids in a Tilted World.
Yes! Please do finish that book!
I might have to try some variation on that point system with my kids— it sounds like a great idea, I just wonder if I can stay organized and consistent enough to keep track!
I absolutely agree with you about the once a week when everyone helps clean, and schoolwork and basic household responsibilities not being tied to a reward system.
And I had to laugh at the idea that parents should only try to influence their children’s behavior through reasoning, not through any form of reward or punishment. My take on that imaginary scenario, how to get a child not to run on a concrete floor while holding a baby, would be to say that any child capable of using language should be able to understand the difference between “stop doing that, it’s annoying/disruptive/rude” and “stop, that’s dangerous!” Part of learning the difference is in experiencing different consequences depending on the seriousness of the situation, and explaining the potential consequences/redirecting the behavior comes after the immediate danger has passed.
My approach to time-outs: it’s not a punishment, it’s a break, meant to give everyone an opportunity to calm down and redirect, and it lasts as long as they feel like they need it to. Confiscating a toy for a certain amount of time would be framed as a punishment, and being made to stay within eyesight while siblings are free to play elsewhere would be framed as a consequence of me not trusting them to behave otherwise. I also never forced them to apologize— what’s the point if it’s not sincere?— only to promise not to repeat the behavior in question.
I wouldn’t say that any of this adds up to a perfect system, but so far it’s worked well enough that they were able to gather kindling, bring in firewood, feed the dogs, wash the dishes, and generally fend for themselves while I spent all day in bed with a fever yesterday.
If the goal is to raise children to be capable, confident, conscientious individuals who are able to exercise self-determination in their lives, it seems counterproductive to me to act as if we’re all just automatically born that way.
You are clearly in the trenches, SlowWalker! My oldest, Veronica, who studied child psychology for a Master's and is a grief counselor for children, also laughed at the idea that parents should use reasoning to convince the child to voluntarily change their behavior, even when doing something dangerous.
I told her a guy labeled me an authoritarian parent. She texted back, "Well your kid says he is wrong" and attached an article on authoritative vs. authoritarian parenting styles. Authoritative, which she's used to describe my style before, is neither punishing nor permissive. And she says, "Let them know that you're definitely known for giving explanations." Ad nauseum, I think ;-)
I love that your time-outs last as long as they think they need. Time-outs didn't work for me but maybe that's girls or just a different set of issues.
In a dangerous situation, the word 'stop' should suffice. I'm thinking of a time my youngest was racing a friend to the corner, and then darted across the street to get to the car first. School speed zones have never been such a godsend. Obviously, with that kid a contrarian, stop meant run faster.
As one mom to another (is that true from the email Jane?) congratulations on your household humming along smoothly while you're running a fever. Good job!
Yes, I’m a mother of four— two boys and two girls. The oldest is in college, the others are all between 8 and 12. And yes, it’s definitely different with boys… the line between play-fighting and real fighting can be hard to determine sometimes, but it’s certainly more straightforward than the bickering between sisters! The rule about no forced apologies came about after a handful of incidents where little sister gave a begrudgingly muttered “sorry” and big sister responded with “well, you don’t sound sorry, I don’t believe you!” It didn’t take long to realize that the likely outcome would be a convincing liar, just like the middle-school terrorist you described. But really, each of them are so different that I wouldn’t assume that what worked for one child would necessarily work for another… for most of them, the self-determined break times rarely lasted more than ten minutes, but for my older son they could easily stretch to an hour… just a matter of needing personal space in a crowded household, I guess.
You are an excellent strategist. I love your thinking. And 'middle-school terrorist' made me laugh!
“Machiavellian midgets” is way better! But I just came up with a really silly poem that I wanted to share, as well as a hypothetical question about your point system. One thing that’s appealing about your strategy is that it seems to be very much in line with some parenting advice I came across several years ago that really stuck with me (I’m sorry, I can’t remember where I read this, but I promise I’m not just making it up). This author claimed that children who are consistently rewarded/given positive feedback based on effort tend to be less risk-averse later in life, more willing to try new things and less likely to give up on things they’re not immediately good at, compared to children who are rewarded primarily for tangible success (making the honor roll, starting quarterback, soloist in the concert, etc.) If this is true, then the idea of rewarding time spent on activities you as a parent consider worthwhile but not necessary seems like an excellent strategy. So my hypothetical question is, what if one of your kids decided after a year or two that they really didn’t have any interest in learning to play a musical instrument, or learn a foreign language, or whatever they’d been earning points by working on? What if they wanted to spend all of their free time skateboarding, or swimming, or volunteering at an animal shelter? Or, to put it another way, can you come up with some simple criteria that are as universally applicable and separate from your own personal preferences as possible for what kinds of activities should be considered points-worthy?
And here’s my goofy little ode to my goofy little boys:
Two brothers, lacking any dignity
(in the living room, where we lay our scene)
From sheer boredom break to new mutiny,
Where glitter-glue makes everything unclean.
Both clad in armor forged from beanbag chairs
With battle-cries of utter nonsense words,
They charge, the static crazy in their hair,
And fall upon the ground like little birds.
These vessels of kinetic energy,
Stopping for nothing but hunger and snow,
Battle endlessly without enmity
As if they were living a cartoon show.
Though I cannot with patient ears attend,
When a beanbag tears, with needle and thread I’ll mend.
- AS A RETIRED PROFESSIONAL, AND, GREAT GRAMMA, I ALWAYS SAY THAT THE DISTANT LAW ALWAYS DEFINES THE DEFINITIONS OF A GOOD PARENT - BY LAW…!!
IT’S MOSTLY A MATTER OF HEART, AND, WORK …!!!!
As a great Gramma, I bow to your experience! You've got my 88 yrs of combined parenting beat by a mile ;-) However, I feel for parents today. There's tremendous pressure in having to make a dual-income mortgage, taking away the choice of moms to devote their work to the family and community. I think feminism should have gone the other direction, and enabled men to also work for family and community, instead of forcing women into the 'market.'
And I see parents with good hearts who are at their wit's end. Every Disney channel show is about parents being subservient to their much wiser offspring. Kids are raised by peers exactly their own age, who far outnumber the adults in the school system. And the purpose to which they're directed is competition--for grades, sports, college, dating.
I think that love is unconditional but stuff is not. By leveraging their ability to get the stuff they wanted, which was going to happen anyway, it made my life more (not entirely) conflict-free. I found it a useful tool, and so put it out there as one experiment. But we're each running our own experiments as parents. Congratulations on yours!
As a further adjunct – here is Episode 7 of NWO: Communism by the Backdoor by Dennis Wise.
7. The United Nations
https://www.bitchute.com/video/K6QQRoh3H5bJ/
It talks about UNESCO …
From 6:15
"Under [Julian] Huxley’s guidance they prepared a Guidebook for Teachers […]
The report [?Guidebook for Teachers] said on the opening page of Volume V. ”In the Classroom with Children Under Thirteen Years of Age:… Before the child enters school his mind has already been profoundly marked and often INJURIOUSLY, by earlier influences … first gained, however dimly, in the home”
Narrator: “So UNESCO’s aim is to change the mindset of your children – to turn it against any values that the parents might install in the mind of that child … “
Ooooh, very revealing. John Taylor Gatto's The Underground History of American Schooling says the same.
I have grabbed a PDF copy - thank you.
I don’t know anything about ‘parenting theory’ but ‘Everything Voluntary Jack’ is certainly an interesting individual. I had a couple of incidental encounters with him on Jeff J Brown’s forum [with whom I don’t always agree] and discovered that another of his passionate causes is the Uyghurs of Xinjiang versus the Chinese government.
https://jeffjbrown.substack.com/p/regis-tremblay-asks-jeff-j-brown-706/comment/43207137
https://jeffjbrown.substack.com/p/a-day-in-the-life-of-the-chinese-5b2/comment/41285496
What intrigued me about those encounters is that he cites BBC and CNN as his primary sources and promotes individuals who are [Jeff’s words] “Soros financed, color revolution whores.” E V Jack sounds very Jordan Peterson-ish and somewhat Freudian, with lots of logical fallacy and very logorrhoeic.
Haha, logorrhoeic. I had to look that up but it certainly fits.
Interesting about the Uyghurs. I thought I read something very eye-opening about them in Vanessa Beeley, but I'm only finding her excellent long history of Syria: https://beeley.substack.com/p/syria-a-fallen-civilization-that. I wish it didn't take US aggression for me to finally learn about different places.
Oh wait, it was Oliver Boyd-Barrett citing Mike Whitney:
"TIP includes many jihadist fighters recruited from the 12 million strong Uyghur communities of Xinjiang province in north western China and which, like many other Sunni jihadi movements, receives funding from and is manipulated by Western powers for the purpose of achieving Western covert policy ambitions (often related to the development of secessionist movements, and regime-change operations). Note in passing that the current population of the Uyghurs has grown from only five million some forty years ago, one among many reasons why fabricated Western charges of a Chinese genocide of the Uyghur population are utter nonsense. This all comes back to the Brzezinski insight thst Eurasia is the globe’s largest continent, boasting two of the world’s most advnced and economically productive regions, about 75% of global population, most of the world’s physical wealth, accounting for 60% of global GNP, and 75% of the world’s known energy resources.
"There were 20,000 Uyghur jihadis in Idlib. TIP was founded in 1988 and received CIA help from its earliest days. The founder of the so-called '“East Turkestan” government-in-exile, Yusuf Turani, lives in Virginia with other senior leaders of the movement. The World Uyghur Congress (WUC) was founded in 2004 by Erkin Alptekin, a former adviser to the CIA." https://oliverboydbarrett.substack.com/p/war-of-the-acronyms-gur-to-hts-to
I wish I had known about your point system when my kids were growing up. The results show that it obviously worked very well.
I don't know who this Mark Amstrong person is, but that picture looks very familiar!
Yikes! I've almost made that mistake several other times and corrected. Mark Armstrong is the editor I paid to help me with my book, co-founder of the Public Banking Institute. In the end, however, very tied to the DC system. He didn't like that I called Bush Jr the Shrub, for instance. I have a feeling he was likely one of the first to don those masks and get those jabs. Happy to have moved on to Marks with a wider vista! And I'll correct that.
Calling Bush Jr. the "Shrub-a-dub" is an endearment of the diminutive.
Hahahaha!
I've read so many of your articles and could do nothing by SMH, wondering why I didn 't unsubscribe. You're nuts and infected with a mind virus that aims to destroy and usher in a NWO. Good riddance, and I'm sure this might have the opposite of the intended effect, but pray like your life depends on it, because it does. You can comment with something resisting the truth, if you need. I won't see it. Bye.